The Day I Learned My Kids Were Smarter Than Me

“Boy, he sure got your nose.”

“Oh my, she has curls just like you!”

“That impatience, totally you.”

When you have children, days are filled with comparisons. There seems to often be great debate about what traits, good and bad, each child received from each parent. Instead of making our children out to me more like us by constantly assigning them our own attributes, perhaps we would be much better off if we were in fact, more like them. We are too busy showing them how to do things that we don’t stop and think that perhaps, they have a great deal to show us as well.

So today, I took the whole day and just focused on what I could learn from them. Instead of teaching them, this is what I learned. It became quite clear that they are a whole lot smarter than me.

Enjoy the breeze. Just look at this picture. Could there really be any feeling more freeing than just riding a swing, Love the Sunfeeling the breeze in your hair, and the sun on your face? She could swing for hours if you let her. With cell phones buzzing constantly and everyone needing something, when was the last time YOU had this look on your face? We can learn so much, just by watching.

 

 

 

 

Sing your heart out. Literally, just sing. It is really hard to stay in a bad mood if you just let loose and belt out a Sing With Your Whole Heartfew notes at the top of your lungs. Kids don’t care what other people think. They don’t care about “offending” anyone or who might judge them. They don’t care who mocks them or who talks behind their back, they just sing and they don’t much care who hears them because it makes them happy. We can learn so much, just by listening.

 

 

Get messy. Dig in the dirt. Feel the mud. Get all sticky. Make a mess. Yes, you will probably end up being the one to img_3137clean it up in the end but once you do it, you will see that it was totally worth it. Just like my kids, life can get pretty messy sometimes. Roll up your sleeves and dig in. Before you know it, you might just be having the time of your life. We can learn so much, just by participating.

Snuggle up. I know that I am super lucky that my kiddos are total snugglers. They love crawling up on my lap for cuddles whenever they feel the need. When was the last time you did that? When did you just reach out for someone who needed a hug or even a pat on the shoulder? When did someone reach for you? We tend to be so concerned about “boundaries” that we let that take precedence over what should be our first reaction when we see someone hurting, lost, or scared. We can learn so much, just by feeling.

 

Be a Princess. This one is totally underrated. As adults we forget what it is like to get lost in a world of make Be a Princessbelieve. “Wasting” time in an imaginary world where everything was perfect and exactly right, that sounds magical to me. Isn’t that what having dreams is all about? Living in a world of pretend helps us to image the possibilities that we never thought possible before. Be a princess, be a hero. Don’t limit yourself to reality. Dream big (after all, what bigger dream is there than to be a princess?!?) and you can make it happen. We can learn so much, just by pretending.

 

Ask Why??? I’ve gotta say, having a 5 year old means I hear this question literally a million times a day. More often Ask Whythan not, I have no idea what the answer is, but that doesn’t stop the question. Perhaps if we asked this more, we might actually have some of the right answers. We accept certain things as the “norm” because that is the way it has always been without actually understanding why. Answering that question is the first step to making any real progress to understanding some of the more difficult questions in life. We can learn so much, just by asking why.

 

 

Next time you are lucky enough to be home playing with your little ones, ask yourself the same question.

What can they teach me? After all, we have so much to learn…

~Leanne

Thinking Outside The Pot

12 Comments

  1. Gpajack
    March 25, 2016 / 9:11 am

    Leanne, this one is especially good! We have a lot to learn.

    • Leanne
      March 25, 2016 / 9:33 am

      Thanks!! Somehow we forget these things as we “grow up”. I appreciate you reading 😀

  2. -j
    March 25, 2016 / 11:55 am

    Great way to look at what we see every day. But when you call me a princess it’s bad…. Lol. This is a really good post.

    • Leanne
      March 25, 2016 / 12:05 pm

      Thanks Princess J. 😉😘

  3. March 25, 2016 / 1:10 pm

    These are great lessons! My son is 11 now, and when he gets impatient with my explaining to him how to do something, I try to remember what I learned when he was 3 and showed me the way he usually does it. Of course it’s important for adults to share what we’ve learned from our experiences, but sometimes we ignore kids’ perspectives too much. We can learn from them, too!

    • Leanne
      March 25, 2016 / 2:02 pm

      Thanks for stopping by! I’m kind of worried about how much I’ll still have to learn when mine are 11!!

  4. March 29, 2016 / 2:19 pm

    What a great post. Sometimes we need to take a step back and let the children teach us a few things.

  5. April 8, 2016 / 3:17 am

    My daughters are now adults and I look at them and learn resilience and personal strength. Great post

  6. April 9, 2016 / 6:16 pm

    Great lessons we all need to learn I think. #Alittlebitofeverything

  7. April 19, 2016 / 2:51 pm

    This really gives a new unique perspective on how we really should be more like our kids. Everyone is in such a rush these days. A rush to grow up, a rush to get somewhere, a rush to be the best. We need to slow down and enjoy the simple things. Thank you for sharing! I found your link on Family Joy Link Party!

  8. May 2, 2016 / 9:56 pm

    This is so precious…and their silly pictures are ones to keep. Thanks for linking up at Mommy Monday!

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